Does anyone else see a problem here?
Haggard had struggles with same-sex attraction for years! His wife thought he was ‘winning the battle” warding off the homosexual tendencies.
Winning or sinning? Isn’t that what they mean?
Gayle and Ted appeared together on ‘The Oprah Winfrey Show’ discussing this issue. How does Oprah get these great guests? Tom Cruise goes insane on a couch. Dr. Jill Biden blurts about her husbands choice of VP or Secretary of State.
She said upon hearing of his ‘struggle’ the first words out of her mouth were: “Who are you?”
‘Prayed for him.’ ‘Winning the battle.’ ‘[D]estroy Ted if he gave in to it.’
This entire story is hilarious if it wasn’t so pathetically sad.
Here’s why I find it to be so tragic:
Gayle’s words describe it all. She felt it could destroy Ted if he gave into his homosexual attraction. People like Gayle and Ted don’t realize that they are more likely to be destroyed internally if they don’t accept who they are.
There isn’t exactly a HA (homosexuals anonymous) like there is for alcohol, drug or gambling addictions.
The sooner people like Ted and Gayle realize that there is nothing to be fearful or ashamed about, the sooner we’ll all be better off.
It reminds me of a M*A*S*H episode where the injured white soldier tells a doctor to make sure he gets the ‘right color blood’ afraid that he’ll get blood drawn from an African American.
It’s sad when a homophobe has homosexual feelings. The internal battle is intense. They do need help. Just not the type of help they think. They need psychological help in order to overcome their homophobia which will pave the way for them to accept who they are. Only then can they realize internal peace.
Larry Craig and Mark Foley – are you listening?
There isn’t a pill, magic wand or a hypnotic spell that will rid Haggard of his homosexual attractions.
What makes matters worse is that fact that he’s a married man who seems unable to control his sexual desires. As a married man, I don’t find it hard to resist temptations from other women – either real or imaginary.
So why would one act on fantasies or attractions at the expense of their REAL relationships?
Either you take monogamy seriously or you don’t. It doesn’t matter if it is heterosexual or homosexual love.
And whatever became of Haggard’s attraction to meth?
Update: I watched this section of Oprah after writing this post. The acceptance and identity portion of this video is exactly the point I am trying to make. I find it interesting that Gayle and Ted seemed to be on different pages about ‘accepting who you are.’ It wouldn’t surprise me if they still believe that you can shut those ‘demons’ out. Nor would it surprise me if they still can not differentiate between having inclinations and acting on them.